abstinence and alternative penetration

[steele mama]

I saw the same Washington Post report. Sadly, the stats don't support abstinence- you end up with uneducated kids at some point having sex and not having the knowledge to protect themselves from disease or pregnancy.

I applaud the efforts of this teen! At least she is doing something to make a difference. Just because you support abstinence does not mean you don't educate. I think most teens know what a condom is and how to use it, however most of them don't seem to know how to say "no thank you". "I'm am not ready. I am more valuable than that." That's what they need to learn!

 

[audie]

no, teenagers don't know what to think about their parent who is talking openly about sex - a subject that your parent should NOT know that much about much less talk about it openly! how embarrassing! but, they will eventually learn how wise their parent is, pervert or not.

you said it perfectly ! :clap_1:

 

[Teresa]

I applaud the efforts of this teen! At least she is doing something to make a difference. Just because you support abstinence does not mean you don't educate. I think most teens know what a condom is and how to use it, however most of them don't seem to know how to say "no thank you". "I'm am not ready. I am more valuable than that." That's what they need to learn!

I agree with you completely. however, I hear a lot about the "politics" of teaching abstinence in schools, instead of a comprehensive sex education program (no condomns!). this is so unrealistic. Best teach your children yourselves if you want them to know the facts, and how saying no thank you is a good choice, good choices vs bad choices, consequences, and the value of oneself (this starts very young for the child), and how the world really works in general... abstinence is a good choice, I wish every teenager would go this route, but it just isn't realistic to expect this from all or even most.

 

[tailwagger]

no, teenagers don't know what to think about their parent who is talking openly about sex - a subject that your parent should NOT know that much about much less talk about it openly! how embarrassing! but, they will eventually learn how wise their parent is, pervert or not.

My point is that parents should be educating their children since they are very young. If you wait until they're teens you've failed. Then they get stupid ideas like having sex in the butt instead of in the front preserves their integrity.

But then what can you expect from a country that worships violence and bans sex? :roll:

 

[steele mama]

I agree with you completely. however, I hear a lot about the "politics" of teaching abstinence in schools, instead of a comprehensive sex education program (no condomns!). this is so unrealistic. Best teach your children yourselves if you want them to know the facts, and how saying no thank you is a good choice, good choices vs bad choices, consequences, and the value of oneself (this starts very young for the child), and how the world really works in general... abstinence is a good choice, I wish every teenager would go this route, but it just isn't realistic to expect this from all or even most.

It seems it is hard to find the right balance, that is for sure. I agree that the education needs to start at home early. My girls could tell you that I wasn't so good at it. I did try but it's not as easy as it sounds. I was pretty good at teaching them that they can say NO. That boys do not have the right to touch them and that they would definitely try! :shock:

 

[Mermaid]

I agree with you completely. however, I hear a lot about the "politics" of teaching abstinence in schools, instead of a comprehensive sex education program (no condomns!). this is so unrealistic. Best teach your children yourselves if you want them to know the facts, and how saying no thank you is a good choice, good choices vs bad choices, consequences, and the value of oneself (this starts very young for the child), and how the world really works in general... abstinence is a good choice, I wish every teenager would go this route, but it just isn't realistic to expect this from all or even most.

Right on, Tootsie! If you get into the habit of periodically having talks about sex with your children, it is far easier to approach them when you know they are of the age to be experimenting or thinking about it. Nothing worse than telling them about the birds and the bees when they're in first grade and then dropping the subject 'til they're in high school. It's too late then. Better to have built up a rapport of comfortabity with your kids. Sex is sex, but it's much more than the mechanics. You need to impart your moral values to your kids, too...talk, talk, talk to them. Tell them how YOU feel and they'll tell you how THEY feel (just be prepared to faint sometimes )

 

[audie]

i know this sounds silly, but i think in some ways the sex talks would have garnered more attention coming from another respected (this being the key word) adult as opposed to a parent. when i was a a tween and a teen i thought my mom was the stupidest person on the face of the planet. she couldn't possibly know what she was talking about ! i knew as a young child i didn't want kids, so abstinence was definitely the route for me. my sis says she was a virgin til she got married - i don't believe it, but i do believe her husband is the only one she's been with. our school didn't have a formal sex ed program, a lot of kids would have benefitted from one. it was just mentioned in passing in health class. i think back in the 70's and early 80's a lot of kids got their sex ed on the school bus.

 

[Teresa]

My point is that parents should be educating their children since they are very young. If you wait until they're teens you've failed. Then they get stupid ideas like having sex in the butt instead of in the front preserves their integrity.

But then what can you expect from a country that worships violence and bans sex? :roll:

wait!!!!! Tailwagger!!!!!!!!!!! that AVATAR!!!!!!! I must have one exactly like it but with my yellow lab - it's so great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

back to subject: you are right - teach your children about sex along with everything else that's important for them to make good choices now and later, and start that teaching as early as possible!!!! banning sex is not the answer, but acting responsibly is.........

 

[tailwagger]

wait!!!!! Tailwagger!!!!!!!!!!! that AVATAR!!!!!!! I must have one exactly like it but with my yellow lab - it's so great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

back to subject: you are right - teach your children about sex along with everything else that's important for them to make good choices now and later, and start that teaching as early as possible!!!! banning sex is not the answer, but acting responsibly is.........

Maybe this thread should have some pics.

 

[Teresa]

Maybe this thread should have some pics.

but of course! why not! pics are always helpful... ;-)