I'm About to Go Broke!

[JT]

this hits so close to home, because every time i see my pop, he always asks me if i need gas money.... a month or so ago i was telling my mom how short i was on funds, and admittedly exaggerating a bit. a short time later my pop called from work to get my bank account number to deposit money for me because mom told him i didn't have any money for groceries :roll: i asked him why he always wants to give me money, he said because he knows i'd never take it. he doesn't offer to my sis tho .....

That funny, my sister is the same way. She like to take the money and when she doesnt get it she complaines that no one will help her.:shock:
Shes a great person, I just think she takes advantage of my folks sometimes.

 

[kathydwells]

At that age, the thing you might want to do is set a monthly budget. Set an amount of $ that is available to him/her each month and be firm. The teen has to make choices on how he/she will allocate this money (prior approval by parent of course). If the child goes under budget one month, then it might be added to the next months budget. If a "special circumstance" occurs and you allow him/her to go over budget one month, then they must realize that this will be deducted from the next months budget. This would do 2 things:

1. Allows you to set an amount certain for their spending money.
2. Helps the teen realize the value of money and the choices they make.

Now...I have made a serious post and my head is about to explode...later!

WOW.....is this the TripleB I know and love? I didn't know you had it in you. I guess your profession helps though, huh. Now, come to my house and help me set up a budget for one Jesse!!!! I am proud of you there my friend!!!!

 

[Rudyjohn]

That funny, my sister is the same way. She like to take the money and when she doesnt get it she complaines that no one will help her.:shock:
Shes a great person, I just think she takes advantage of my folks sometimes.

Accepting $$ from parents as an adult is so weird to me. Unless you are in dire need or in poor health. When I was growing up my parents paid for most things and gave me an allowance. But as soon as I moved out at 18, I never got another dime. I never asked and they never offered. It just never occurred to me to ever expect it. When times were tough, I worked extra pt. time jobs at night. Everything my husband and I have, we've earned completely on our own. No monetary gifts either at Christmas. It does give you a sense of pride to be able to do it on your own. I am shocked to hear how many of my friends whose parents have given them the down payments for their homes or given them the new car for their 40th b.d.

 

[Teresa]

This is a great thread all around. JR thanks for starting it.



Hey, it happens -- I've let my 6 yo watch entirely too much TV in the past month and now I am paying for it as he transitions back into school and responsibility.

I'm very guilty of this as well over the summer (and I have the hard evidence that too much TV contributes to juvenile delinquency. I am saying no to TV now and will keep it that way - next summer gotta come up with a different plan of action). also, I found myself buying him that little hot wheel or cheapo toy at Publix or wherever we went because he was with me so much over the summer (constantly), plus a few trips to the toy store for something special that he wanted. Suddenly, because of my saying yes to these items, he became an instant materialistic brat "I want a toy! now!". Saying no to this now too, and talking about appreciating what we have. we learn our lessons the hard way sometimes.

 

[TooFarTampa]

I'm very guilty of this as well over the summer (and I have the hard evidence that too much TV contributes to juvenile delinquency. I am saying no to TV now and will keep it that way - next summer gotta come up with a different plan of action). also, I found myself buying him that little hot wheel or cheapo toy at Publix or wherever we went because he was with me so much over the summer (constantly), plus a few trips to the toy store for something special that he wanted. Suddenly, because of my saying yes to these items, he became an instant materialistic brat "I want a toy! now!". Saying no to this now too, and talking about appreciating what we have. we learn our lessons the hard way sometimes.

Gosh are you me or what? DS No. 1 had a growth spurt in the past couple of weeks. Yesterday he goes to put his sneakers on (it's been sandals all summer) and they are too small! So after school we go get him nice new shoes. At Nordstrom. He's like, can I have a toy too? Just one toy? NOO!!!! We had the same conversation about how other kids don't have so much, blah blah blah. Maybe I should practice during my free time today: No. No. No. No. No. ...

 

[Rudyjohn]

I'm very guilty of this as well over the summer (and I have the hard evidence that too much TV contributes to juvenile delinquency. I am saying no to TV now and will keep it that way - next summer gotta come up with a different plan of action). also, I found myself buying him that little hot wheel or cheapo toy at Publix or wherever we went because he was with me so much over the summer (constantly), plus a few trips to the toy store for something special that he wanted. Suddenly, because of my saying yes to these items, he became an instant materialistic brat "I want a toy! now!". Saying no to this now too, and talking about appreciating what we have. we learn our lessons the hard way sometimes.

We've all been guilty of this. That's what's so ironic about some of the moralistic posts to this thread. ;-)
Don't we all wish we could be the perfect parent? It is so hard. There is a reason, for me anyway, for only having one child!

 

[audie]

Accepting $$ from parents as an adult is so weird to me. Unless you are in dire need or in poor health. When I was growing up my parents paid for most things and gave me an allowance. But as soon as I moved out at 18, I never got another dime. I never asked and they never offered. It just never occurred to me to ever expect it. When times were tough, I worked extra pt. time jobs at night. Everything my husband and I have, we've earned completely on our own. No monetary gifts either at Christmas. It does give you a sense of pride to be able to do it on your own. I am shocked to hear how many of my friends whose parents have given them the down payments for their homes or given them the new car for their 40th b.d.

i'm working this all wrong - i bought my own car for my 40th !

 

[Rudyjohn]

i'm working this all wrong - i bought my own car for my 40th !

No kidding!

 

[Teresa]

We've all been guilty of this. That's what's so ironic about some of the moralistic posts to this thread. ;-)
Don't we all wish we could be the perfect parent? It is so hard. There is a reason, for me anyway, for only having one child!

I have one child also. And still trying to figure it all out. I won't ever be a perfect parent, just want my son to be a good person who is respectful, appreciative, aware, kind and loving. Sometimes we need to work on ourselves in these very areas before we can even begin to teach our children. Thanks for sharing your stories!

Our son's school has some pretty good statements that define their mission. I feel these are so important as we think of what kind of people our children will grow to be:

Our mission. To awaken and nurture an endless passion for knowledge within our children.

Our vision for the child. To see each child grow to become global citizens who are wise, respectful, confident, compassionate, self-motivated, self-disciplined, independent thinkers, life-long learners, nurturing, tolerant, peaceful and skilled problem solvers.

Our vision for the world. Through the education of our children, SWMA aspires to help create an outstanding world community that is peaceful, compassionate, environmentally conscious, educated, spiritual, boundless, joyful, empathetic, balanced, and charitable.

 

[Mermaid]

I have one child also. And still trying to figure it all out. I won't ever be a perfect parent, just want my son to be a good person who is respectful, appreciative, aware, kind and loving. Sometimes we need to work on ourselves in these very areas before we can even begin to teach our children. Thanks for sharing your stories!

Our son's school has some pretty good statements that define their mission. I feel these are so important as we think of what kind of people our children will grow to be:

Our mission. To awaken and nurture an endless passion for knowledge within our children.

Our vision for the child. To see each child grow to become global citizens who are wise, respectful, confident, compassionate, self-motivated, self-disciplined, independent thinkers, life-long learners, nurturing, tolerant, peaceful and skilled problem solvers.

Our vision for the world. Through the education of our children, SWMA aspires to help create an outstanding world community that is peaceful, compassionate, environmentally conscious, educated, spiritual, boundless, joyful, empathetic, balanced, and charitable.

May I go to school with Spidey? I like what they're saying here. :clap_1: