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i agree, communication is the key,. my first wife always said i didnt listen to her enough, or somethin like that......
 
Hmm. MrsSvelte & I will be married 40 years next April (plus 2 more dating). It has not always been easy and there have been a few bumps (or more)along the way. Clearly, most people change over time and change can be uncomfortable and challenging. In our case, changes have been accommodated and we are bascially happier than ever.

Keys to success in our relationship: respect, trust, communication (I'm not so good at this), empathy, shared belief in core values, and simply a fundamental caring for one's partner.
 
Hmm. MrsSvelte & I will be married 40 years next April (plus 2 more dating). It has not always been easy and there have been a few bumps (or more)along the way. Clearly, most people change over time and change can be uncomfortable and challenging. In our case, changes have been accommodated and we are bascially happier than ever.

Keys to success in our relationship: respect, trust, communication (I'm not so good at this), empathy, shared belief in core values, and simply a fundamental caring for one's partner.

Two months of dating...that's the way to go...! :biggrin:
 
Two YEARS - check the time frame.

My bad! Two "more," not two "months."

My parents actually dated for 9 weeks before they got engaged, and got married less than 3 months after that. 42 years...
 
i could have been happily single for the rest of my life, if i didn't meet somebody that i wanted to be married to. the same is true for my husband.

after 15 years of marriage i would say that when i got married i wasn't sure if i wanted to be with him forever, i just knew i didn't want him to leave. still can't live without him. i agree it's the little things and thinking of each other first :D

i think the secret is to have your own identity, but be willing to share your life. i don't get these people who feel obligated to be married but vacation with their buddies and only talk about their deepest secrets with their friends. i think it would be difficult to be married if you were just distant roomates or were playing some kind of societal roles instead of getting to be yourself. if you marry the right person, you will always get to be yourself and you will always live with your very best friend!

also, don't be afraid to fight, if you really love each other a little confrontation is not the end of the world supressing stuff however, will doom your marriage eventually! and don't be afraid to makeup either!

most importantly, never let your husband leave the house with a loaded gun... that's a metaphor by the way....a very adult metaphor.
 
most importantly, never let your husband leave the house with a loaded gun... that's a metaphor by the way....a very adult metaphor.

LOL!

I was about to point out that my hub leaves every day with a loaded gun, but then it dawned on me. :funn:

It is also helpful that both spouses be secure in knowing that when the wife's back :cry: and elbow :angry: both hurt, it is ok for the husband to clean the rifle himself, in order to avoid a dangerous misfire later. :blush:
 
:clap: I'm enjoying this thread!

Just celebrated 12 years August 20 - and only dated 6 months before we got hitched :roll:

Our secret? We give each other plenty of space to be ourselves. I say as much as I can "you are right", even if it kills me to do so (I found out that it really isn't important to be "right" all the time in conversation). And I don't think it's been mentioned but here I go - keep things spicy :blush: in the relationship.
 
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