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Afghan Weddings: Wasteful & Ostentatious?
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PearlSB4U
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My comment was "vs. US weddings?" I was trying to ask whether Afghan weddings as described in this article were wasteful & ostentatious compared with US weddings.
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Beach Runner
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$15 a head? 
Just the caterer will cost a lot more than $15 a head. The average cost of a wedding in the U.S. is somewhere between $24000 and 29000 according to a few websites I googled.
I think that U.S. weddings have gotten out of hand in terms of extravangance. One of my colleagues has a child getting married. He said they were trying to keep it under $25000. He laughed. And we professors don't make big bucks. We were guilty of going overboard with our daughter's wedding. The only thing I regret is spending too much on the dress. Every time we turned around, we were writing a check to someone. It got so ridiculous that I started saying enough is enough. No, we're not giving gifts to the guests. No, not having a second dress for the reception. No, not spending $600 at the bridal salon for a plain veil when one can be found on Etsy for $75. Not spending $10 per invitation for caligraphy (so daughter did it herself). Etc., etc. But looking back on it, I don't know what else we could have cut back on.
Some wedding receptions I've seen videos of are like Broadway shows or rock 'n roll concerts. They're more ostentatious than the video posted in this thread. If I find the links, I'll show you what I mean.
Just the caterer will cost a lot more than $15 a head. The average cost of a wedding in the U.S. is somewhere between $24000 and 29000 according to a few websites I googled.I think that U.S. weddings have gotten out of hand in terms of extravangance. One of my colleagues has a child getting married. He said they were trying to keep it under $25000. He laughed. And we professors don't make big bucks. We were guilty of going overboard with our daughter's wedding. The only thing I regret is spending too much on the dress. Every time we turned around, we were writing a check to someone. It got so ridiculous that I started saying enough is enough. No, we're not giving gifts to the guests. No, not having a second dress for the reception. No, not spending $600 at the bridal salon for a plain veil when one can be found on Etsy for $75. Not spending $10 per invitation for caligraphy (so daughter did it herself). Etc., etc. But looking back on it, I don't know what else we could have cut back on.
Some wedding receptions I've seen videos of are like Broadway shows or rock 'n roll concerts. They're more ostentatious than the video posted in this thread. If I find the links, I'll show you what I mean.
beachmouse
Beach Fanatic
Given that the GDP per capita is around $500, at $15 per head, you're still talking several years of salary for the typical family there.
But their money, their culture, all that.
But their money, their culture, all that.
Kurt
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Murr is referring to an old post - "how to post an article". Not so much a rule as it is web forum etiquette. Most people don't want to click on a link unless they know what it is. Give us something more than that please.
scooterbug44
SoWal Expert
The real reason they are trying to curtail the weddings is that the typical wedding involves MANY things the Taliban hates, but are so deeply ingrained that they cannot fight them directly. These weddings show that they are losing control - partying, dancing, professional singers, relaxing of strict dress and behavior codes etc.
One of the few jobs women can have that will allow them to support a family (many are widows) is as a beautician, seamstress, or caterer, and the elaborate weddings are driving that.
I must say that of all the weddings I have attended over the years, the best ones were definitely not the most expensive ones (which also weren't the ones that have lasted I must add). The ones done on a limited budget and with a healthy dose of reality were much happier events that showed the bride and groom's personality. Far too often it seems more about the event and impressing people then about 2 people in love.
One of the few jobs women can have that will allow them to support a family (many are widows) is as a beautician, seamstress, or caterer, and the elaborate weddings are driving that.
I must say that of all the weddings I have attended over the years, the best ones were definitely not the most expensive ones (which also weren't the ones that have lasted I must add). The ones done on a limited budget and with a healthy dose of reality were much happier events that showed the bride and groom's personality. Far too often it seems more about the event and impressing people then about 2 people in love.