SneakyPete
Beach Lover
My children have all gone to community colleges (first two years) and public colleges. They got in-state scholarships and kept them and really had a ball -- even though they worked part time through school.
No matter where your child goes they have a CHOICE to seek out and cultivate relationships with fellow classmates and teachers and to pursue all that that particular campus has to offer. Every campus has some fabulous teachers, and every campus offers opportunities for education and fun....if students are motivated. A former professor of mine from a local college became a lifelong mentor and friend. Through her, I have had many professional opportunities, and before her death we had many long lunches and dinners where the talk and laughter never stopped. I will always miss her.
My children's degrees have been in liberal arts, -ologies, and art. With that type of degree it doesn't really matter what school they come from because there aren't really jobs in those fields. For a lot of non-technical, non-vocational employers "graduated college" is a block to be checked off. For my children, that has been the case and they are making good money in fields that aren't really related to their degrees of study. Similarly, their friends who went to out-of-state or private schools and got the same type of degree are doing the exact same thing....only they or their families have loans.
Because we didn't put ourselves in hock and they didn't have to take out loans to get through college, we were able to gift them with a substantial monetary gift upon graduation -- for a downpayment on a home, for travel or to attend graduate school. I guess because my husband and I both attended rather humble schools and were still able to throroughly educate ourselves (and continue to do so) and advance professionally, I place a higher value on what happens after college than what happens in college...and I think my children took that to heart as well. They viewed college as a luxurious reprieve from real life -- where they got to dabble in philosophies, explore their interests, debate for the sake of debate and be actually and intellectually YOUNG -- and they understood how lucky they were to have that opportunity.
No matter where your child goes they have a CHOICE to seek out and cultivate relationships with fellow classmates and teachers and to pursue all that that particular campus has to offer. Every campus has some fabulous teachers, and every campus offers opportunities for education and fun....if students are motivated. A former professor of mine from a local college became a lifelong mentor and friend. Through her, I have had many professional opportunities, and before her death we had many long lunches and dinners where the talk and laughter never stopped. I will always miss her.
My children's degrees have been in liberal arts, -ologies, and art. With that type of degree it doesn't really matter what school they come from because there aren't really jobs in those fields. For a lot of non-technical, non-vocational employers "graduated college" is a block to be checked off. For my children, that has been the case and they are making good money in fields that aren't really related to their degrees of study. Similarly, their friends who went to out-of-state or private schools and got the same type of degree are doing the exact same thing....only they or their families have loans.
Because we didn't put ourselves in hock and they didn't have to take out loans to get through college, we were able to gift them with a substantial monetary gift upon graduation -- for a downpayment on a home, for travel or to attend graduate school. I guess because my husband and I both attended rather humble schools and were still able to throroughly educate ourselves (and continue to do so) and advance professionally, I place a higher value on what happens after college than what happens in college...and I think my children took that to heart as well. They viewed college as a luxurious reprieve from real life -- where they got to dabble in philosophies, explore their interests, debate for the sake of debate and be actually and intellectually YOUNG -- and they understood how lucky they were to have that opportunity.

