Daddy

[Rita]

Lynne and njackie,

Prayers and hugs around from Texas. It's hard, but what jdarg describes is what I went through with my dad. I also had a period of guilt stuck in there when I realized I had stopped thinking of him with every little thing. I was afraid I was forgeting about him... . Didn't happen, things just smoothed out more.

Your fathers sound like wonderful family people and are lucky to be surrounded by family like you.

 

[peapod1980]

I've been (and will be) off the board a bit lately. My dad has been fighting For the prayerful among you, please remember him. We've resigned ourselves that we will lose this fight, but want him to be at peace and not to endure any more pain or fear than needs be. I appreciate any good thoughts or prayers for Daddy, my children (and myself too please).

Lynne--prayers and virtual hugs to you, friend.
I'm so sorry to hear this and for this difficult time you and your family are going through.

 

[njackie]

Thank you so much for all the prayers and kind words from this board, I always mainly lurked on the real estate part! Cheering, my mom and I are praying for you and your family too. I just got home tonight from north MO only because I have to go to work tomorrow. My physically great big Daddy is now a tiny little guy, whom I never realized was so brave and spiritually huge. I am such a whussie person to be acting this way! Love you all and we did just sell one condo in Seagrove and it was fine, I have trouble understanding the negativity of the real estate part of the board. We kept our larger condo because we always want to be a part of Seagrove and 30A.

 

[newyorker]

Lynne:
our family's prayers are with you and your family. I lost my father when I was only 16, and my husband's dad died 30 years ago. We still mourn them. My aunt died of pancreatic cancer--it does not have to be a painful or awful death--she was home, and my cousin (a world class flutist) played for her mother for days. Aunt Beth died peacefully with her family beside her, and my cousin playing the flute. Painkillers are meant for this sort of thing, and hospice people can be very helpful.

Nonetheless, this is a hard time for you. Take care of yourself first--and know that your friends on this board are sending good thoughts and God's love your way.

 

[Allifunn]

Thank you so much for all the prayers and kind words from this board, I always mainly lurked on the real estate part! Cheering, my mom and I are praying for you and your family too. I just got home tonight from north MO only because I have to go to work tomorrow. My physically great big Daddy is now a tiny little guy, whom I never realized was so brave and spiritually huge. I am such a whussie person to be acting this way! Love you all and we did just sell one condo in Seagrove and it was fine, I have trouble understanding the negativity of the real estate part of the board. We kept our larger condo because we always want to be a part of Seagrove and 30A.

stay in the positive lounge my dear lady!!! god bless you and your family!!

 

[Miss Kitty]

Lynne and njackie...peace be with you both at this difficult time.

 

[Cil]

::sending positive thoughts to Cheering and njackie::

I've been : lost my dad, stepdad and my FIL to cancer.

The memory book idea is wonderful. Things happened too fast with my dad and stepdad, but we were able to do something like that for FIL.

All of Paula's ideas are very good. I think this one is worth repeating:

Most of all, remember that you are honoring your daddy and participating in one of life's most precious transition (though saddest for us). So, be gentle with yourself in every way because what you are going through is truly special and honorable.

lots of hugs to you

 

[Cheering472]

You are all so amazing. What great ideas, thank each and every one of you. Njackie my prayers are also with you, it is a horrible time, but I know God is always with us. Lean on His promises and feel His love. I hope you have comfort from this board and your family. I can't tell you how uplifted I feel today because of everyones comments, suggestions, well wishes and prayers. I am getting right on the memory book and I am going to the buy the book Paula mentioned. There really aren't words to express how all your posts have helped, but I am truly touched.

So we made it through the weekend. Daddy is in a hospital downtown. This weekend 800,000 people decended on the city for the Derby festival fireworks and airshow. Traffic was a bit ugly so I camped out overnight. Daddy received several units of blood, his fever is staying down and they were able to pull almost 2 liters of nasty off his belly. This made him a bit more comfortable and he wants to take the aggressive route and do the chemo. One oncologist supports that, the other doesn't. Daddy wants to be here for his granddaughters wedding in October. One of his doctors told me he might get 2 maybe 3 months from the chemo, not 6. He thinks it's time to stop. But Daddy wants to try to be at the wedding, so the fight is on. God love him, he's a stubborn thing. We (my sisters and brother) do know that
2-3 months is very optimistic but without the chemo he will be gone in 2-3 weeks. He wants to try, so we try.

Please know how often I wish I could get on this board when I'm at the hospital and need a break. I can feel the love each of you have for your dad and your comments have been wonderful to read. Thanks again. I had to come into work today for a while. I'm going to check out some other more funn posts and get some work done while I laugh at y'all. I'll keep you all posted.

 

[ShallowsNole]

Cheering, I stumbled upon your thread a bit late, but I too offer prayers for your daddy - and you and your family, whatever the outcome may finally be.

Both of my parents are gone - my dad 22 years ago and almost 15 for my mom. I believe with every ounce of my being that they are in eternity with the Lord, but I still get sad, especially when I look at pictures, or I see my great-nephew (the little guy in my 'tar) or my great-nieces, who would have been their great-grandchildren...I try to tell folks to appreciate your parents, because you just never know...

Take care of yourself and your Daddy too.

 

[Sheila]

You are all so amazing. What great ideas, thank each and every one of you. Njackie my prayers are also with you, it is a horrible time, but I know God is always with us. Lean on His promises and feel His love. I hope you have comfort from this board and your family. I can't tell you how uplifted I feel today because of everyones comments, suggestions, well wishes and prayers. I am getting right on the memory book and I am going to the buy the book Paula mentioned. There really aren't words to express how all your posts have helped, but I am truly touched.

So we made it through the weekend. Daddy is in a hospital downtown. This weekend 800,000 people decended on the city for the Derby festival fireworks and airshow. Traffic was a bit ugly so I camped out overnight. Daddy received several units of blood, his fever is staying down and they were able to pull almost 2 liters of nasty off his belly. This made him a bit more comfortable and he wants to take the aggressive route and do the chemo. One oncologist supports that, the other doesn't. Daddy wants to be here for his granddaughters wedding in October. One of his doctors told me he might get 2 maybe 3 months from the chemo, not 6. He thinks it's time to stop. But Daddy wants to try to be at the wedding, so the fight is on. God love him, he's a stubborn thing. We (my sisters and brother) do know that
2-3 months is very optimistic but without the chemo he will be gone in 2-3 weeks. He wants to try, so we try.

Please know how often I wish I could get on this board when I'm at the hospital and need a break. I can feel the love each of you have for your dad and your comments have been wonderful to read. Thanks again. I had to come into work today for a while. I'm going to check out some other more funn posts and get some work done while I laugh at y'all. I'll keep you all posted.

So glad you checked in Lynne. God bless your Daddy for wanting to be at that wedding. The human spirit is an amazing thing. I pray that your Daddy will be at that wedding and gets a little spin around the dance floor with the bride.

Sending love, hope , and prayers your way.