SHELLY
SoWal Insider
Aw heck, might as well continue the thread drift.
Both family structures and the needs of the elderly have changed a lot over the past 50 years. It's common for people to move far away from hometown and family in their 20s these days, and that causes problems down the line. My parents still live in Michigan. I'm here. My sister is currently in Georgia and has a career that will see her moving around the country every couple of years.
I can't move back to Michigan to care for an elderly parent. Job market's even worse up there. They wouldn't want to move in with me. Other than the part of us driving each other nuts after a couple of weeks, they're knit strongly into the community up north- friends, extended family, doctors, churches, etc. and they don't want to have to give that all up and start somewhere again.
And from a science and health care standpoint, we now are able to keep frail elderly alive much longer and while they have conditions that would have killed quickly in an earlier age, whether it's cancer or Alzheimer's or any number of heart or lung conditions. It's entirely different to let Grandma move into your house for the last two years of her life than to have her move in for a twenty year commitment.
And I will never ever think ill of an Alzheimer's caregiver who burns out and just can't take it anymore. It's one of the hardest things you can ask a person to do.
...didn't your parents get the memo telling them that they're supposed to purchase and move into these condoz down here in Florida during their golden years? .