Help!

[Jdarg]

Kate has been in her own bed for quite awhile, but there are still setback events. She has asthma, so when she is sick, sometimes she is in bed with us so I can hear her breathe. Of course, when she feels better she wants to stay with us, and we have to have a few nights of "re-training". She also has a weird bug nightmare about once a month- she "sees" bugs all over her walls and bed and by the time all the lights are on and she is fully awake, she can't go back to sleep!

The point is this- you will get used to a full night's sleep, then BAM! Walker will wake up some night and scare the crap out of you - and your sleep will be disrupted for days 'cause now you are out of practice of waking up and going easily back to sleep!

 

[Miss Kitty]

...and then they become teenagers with driver's licenses and curfews and the whole dam* sleep deprivation starts over again!!!

 

[kathydwells]

...and then they become teenagers with driver's licenses and curfews and the whole dam* sleep deprivation starts over again!!!

Well at least I know I have 3 good years of sleep left.

 

[iwishiwasthere]

...and then they become teenagers with driver's licenses and curfews and the whole dam* sleep deprivation starts over again!!!

Uh-Huh! One positive about college starting back...more rest and less laundry!

 

[Miss Kitty]

Uh-Huh! One positive about college starting back...more rest and less laundry!

Mine is still home, but he is the original crusty old man and rarely stays out late....meaning after 11:00 pm!!! I am SO lucky with this one!

 

[Ocean Lover]

Well at least I know I have 3 good years of sleep left.

That's what I was thinking. Not looking forward to the driving or dating!

 

[peapod1980]

This is why I was alway's I was so scared to sleep with my son in the bed with me.

DELAND, FLORIDA -- A 3-week-old baby who was sleeping in his parents' bed died after his father apparently rolled onto him, sheriff's officials said today.

I definitely agree there are dangers to co-sleeping, but statistics bear out that most tragedies occur when one or both of the parents are impaired in some way or haven't taken precautions to make the bed safe.
What a horrible accident, though.

 

[audie]

I definitely agree there are dangers to co-sleeping, but statistics bear out that most tragedies occur when one or both of the parents are impaired in some way or haven't taken precautions to make the bed safe.
What a horrible accident, though.

did anyone see the show on hbo's autopsy series where people could write dr. baden about suspicious deaths in their family and he would investigate ? one lady wrote in about her young son dying for no apparent reason who was in bed with her at the time. dr baden concluded since she was admittedly intoxicated at the time, she had rolled over in her sleep and smothered the child. i can't imagine living with this for the rest of your life !

 

[Teresa]

Okay here it goes. You all know we have an adorable little boy that you have seen pictures of.
The problem is, he's almost 2 and he still wakes up every night at about 11 and refuses to sleep in his bed. We asked the doctor what to do and he said to let him scream for about ten minutes and then go tell him hat "everything's okay" and let him scream for another ten minutes and repeat until he's sleep. But this kid will not give up. He can shake the windows in the house when he screams.

LL: there's lots of good suggestions in this thread! wanted to share my own experience with my 3 year old, but keeping in mind they are each so different.

LJ has been in his own big boy bed since he was about 1 1/2. We made it a very comfy bed (queen size) against the wall with padding/pillows and favorite stuffed animals. Every night we read lots of books before bedtime, making this a very special time of day for us both. Before we read the last book, I say, "Last book, and after this book, it's..." and he says, "Lights out!". So, we have this routine....

Then lights out. He may or may not fuss. I started out laying down with him because this makes him feel very special and secure (me too!). Usually, he is asleep within minutes.

I still lay down with him some, because its a habit for us both.. But if needed, I can say goodnight and leave him in the room and he will go to sleep no problem. He is very secure in his bed, and doesn't need me now. But, when they are only 1 or 2 - I believe they do need you for a little while.

When LJ was about your child's age, he started getting up in the middle of the night, and I would meet him in the hallway and steer him directly back into his bed, telling him "stay in your bed". I would lay down with him for a few minutes, if needed. I never let him get as far as my own bed - because I want him to love being in his own bed. (this lasted for months - not every night, but quite often)

He loves his bed, but still wants mama in it sometimes - and I think that is just fine.

I think "crying it out" for babies and toddlers is just completely unnecessary, and can cause some lifelong insecurities or other emotional problems. why not give them what they need, patiently teach them, and give them every reason to feel happy and secure?

 

[steele mama]

LL: there's lots of good suggestions in this thread! wanted to share my own experience with my 3 year old, but keeping in mind they are each so different.

LJ has been in his own big boy bed since he was about 1 1/2. We made it a very comfy bed (queen size) against the wall with padding/pillows and favorite stuffed animals. Every night we read lots of books before bedtime, making this a very special time of day for us both. Before we read the last book, I say, "Last book, and after this book, it's..." and he says, "Lights out!". So, we have this routine....

Then lights out. He may or may not fuss. I started out laying down with him because this makes him feel very special and secure (me too!). Usually, he is asleep within minutes.

I still lay down with him some, because its a habit for us both.. But if needed, I can say goodnight and leave him in the room and he will go to sleep no problem. He is very secure in his bed, and doesn't need me now. But, when they are only 1 or 2 - I believe they do need you for a little while.

When LJ was about your child's age, he started getting up in the middle of the night, and I would meet him in the hallway and steer him directly back into his bed, telling him "stay in your bed". I would lay down with him for a few minutes, if needed. I never let him get as far as my own bed - because I want him to love being in his own bed. (this lasted for months - not every night, but quite often)

He loves his bed, but still wants mama in it sometimes - and I think that is just fine.

I think "crying it out" for babies and toddlers is just completely unnecessary, and can cause some lifelong insecurities or other emotional problems. why not give them what they need, patiently teach them, and give them every reason to feel happy and secure?

Tootsie gets my vote for the best advice on this thread!!! :clap_1: