Should I get a divorce?

[DD]

Hubby just annouced that since he's changing jobs and has to use another week of PTO before he leaves, he thinks he'll just "run down to florida" for a week....WITHOUT ME!!! I have no PTO, spent it in August down there with HIS WHOLE FAMILY! Cooked, cleaned, ran everybody around since they all flew and I drove--got stranded on the beach during a mini-hurricane because "someone" was in my vehicle at a bar! We had originally planned to both come down, but I thought we had decided since I didn't have any time, he would go elsewhere..but...he musta missed that conversation.

 

[Ocean Lover]

Well, I wouldn't blame ya if you did. No, j/k. I think I would try to work out a way for you to take time off w/out pay. Is the new job a promotion and pay raise? Maybe that would make up the difference. I can understand your frustration. Good luck!

 

[Sheila]

Hubby just annouced that since he's changing jobs and has to use another week of PTO before he leaves, he thinks he'll just "run down to florida" for a week....WITHOUT ME!!! I have no PTO, spent it in August down there with HIS WHOLE FAMILY! Cooked, cleaned, ran everybody around since they all flew and I drove--got stranded on the beach during a mini-hurricane because "someone" was in my vehicle at a bar! We had originally planned to both come down, but I thought we had decided since I didn't have any time, he would go elsewhere..but...he musta missed that conversation.

No honey!:nono1: By divorcing him he'd get off way too easy! Don't get mad. Get even! :bicycle: Far more effective!!!!!!

 

[seagrovelover]

Oh boy, what a bummer!!!! I think I would try to find a way to get down there if only for a weekend........you need to relax after THAT family vacation!!!!!! good luck

 

[DBOldford]

I recommend a long weekend (or even at week) at Canyon Ranch when you next have vacation time. Not as retribution, but as fair play. A woman never fully realizes how much time we spend doing for others (even with help) until you have several days where all you have to think about is what healthy and enjoyable things you want to do with your day and when you want to walk over and enjoy a delicious, healthy meal prepared for you (and cleaned up) by someone else! Canyon Ranch isn't just a health spa...they have classes and professionals for your bod, your heart and mind, and your spirituality. The first time I went there, my husband took one look at me upon return and said, "You should do this every year." So I put some savings into a little account of its own that makes enough each year to send me there. That way, I don't have to think about all the other things I should be doing with my time or money. That one long weekend each year is the most important thing I've done just for myself in a long time. This place ROCKS and so do you!

Remember: If he's on his side and you're on his side, too.....who's going to be on your side? Do something special and relaxing for yourself and make no apologies. That is a good alternative to a divorce, which no one in their right mind wants. Good luck.

 

[DD]

Thanks, all! I wouldn't REALLY divorce him, but I like the idea of going somewhere too. I could take the time off without pay, but the demands of the job right now are overwhelming...maybe if I whine enough at work, my boss will take pity...
will keep you posed--maybe I'll get there after all!

 

[RiverOtter]

Hubby just annouced that since he's changing jobs and has to use another week of PTO before he leaves, he thinks he'll just "run down to florida" for a week....WITHOUT ME!!!

I don't think you should diveroce him. But you should call him and tell him I'll meet him at the Red Bar

 

[Beach Runner]

No divorce, especially if you have kids. I mean, you've probably ticked him off big-time somewhere along the way and didn't even know it. "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus." As long he hasn't abused you physically or mentally and hasn't cheated on you (possibly exposing you to some fatal STD), I'd let him know how I feel (don't drag it out - men hate that) and then move on.

 

[Dabell]

Hubby just annouced that since he's changing jobs and has to use another week of PTO before he leaves, he thinks he'll just "run down to florida" for a week....WITHOUT ME!!! I have no PTO, spent it in August down there with HIS WHOLE FAMILY! Cooked, cleaned, ran everybody around since they all flew and I drove--got stranded on the beach during a mini-hurricane because "someone" was in my vehicle at a bar! We had originally planned to both come down, but I thought we had decided since I didn't have any time, he would go elsewhere..but...he musta missed that conversation.

I got a plan! Tell him to go then you fly or drive there and surprise him or stork him! And if you are thinking about divorce talk to me first! I'll show you my Divorce papers and what to do before you file! I might have been crazy but I wasn't stupid! ;-)
It's Not about what you are willing to do with, It's all about what you are willing to do without....

 

[DD]

I don't think you should diveroce him. But you should call him and tell him I'll meet him at the Red Bar

RO: :clap_1: From what I've read here, I think the two of you might be a dangerous combination! LOL!

GTTBM: I like it!

Dabell: Might be an option.

BR: Divorce is really not an option--I only considered it for half a second--not seriously. He's a good guy, just a little insensitive sometimes.

Will advise if I make it after all-maybe the red tide will be gone by then???