Life suggestions?

[florida girl]

You never awnsered my question. Age of bitterness -I mean- reality sets in exactly when?

Age of bitterness sets in whenever an individual experiences a traumatic situation, and chooses to be bitter about it, instead of dealing with it in a manner that brings resolution. To say that because an individual is bitter just because they have experienced the situation, and are aware of the reality of life, is not fair. In that frame, most of the population would be bitter, because trauma is a natural part of life to some extent. To say that trauma does not exist, is sticking one's head in the sand.

 

[BlueFox181]

Age of bitterness sets in whenever an individual experiences a traumatic situation, and chooses to be bitter about it, instead of dealing with it in a manner that brings resolution. To say that because an individual is bitter just because they have experienced the situation, and are aware of the reality of life, is not fair. In that frame, most of the population would be bitter, because trauma is a natural part of life to some extent. To say that trauma does not exist, is sticking one's head in the sand.

No offense FG- but in your own words- seems like you need resolution.

I have watched many failed marriages in my time- but I remain hopeful.

But seriously- we all know we don't need men. I'm not some self-loathing man-hating woman because I have had a few that have treated me like crap. You live, learn, and grow. No kidding.

Of course trauma exists- but for you to bring that into a "where should I hang-out" forum is just silly. Think about it. You've obviously been so hurt you're trying to taint other womens opinions so they don't even leave the house. Because all men are horrible right? Get over it- or you'll be miserable forever.

 

[BlueFox181]

and again- what age does bitterness start? :scratch:

Still never gave me an age range which makes me think you're way older, divorced and yes, still VERY bitter. Lighten up!

 

[scooterbug44]

I think Florida girl's overall message is a great one (and sounds like the voice of experience) it just got repetitive and a little bitter.

I've gotten frustrated more than once w/ girls who think one's life is empty and meaningless if you are single and whose lives revolve around a boyfriend/husband who is not good for them.

Of course, I have to be (perhaps unrealistically) hopeful that prince charming is out there, I'm allergic to cats!

 

[Franny]

No offense FG- but in your own words- seems like you need resolution.

I have watched many failed marriages in my time- but I remain hopeful.

But seriously- we all know we don't need men. I'm not some self-loathing man-hating woman because I have had a few that have treated me like crap. You live, learn, and grow. No kidding.

Of course trauma exists- but for you to bring that into a "where should I hang-out" forum is just silly. Think about it. You've obviously been so hurt you're trying to taint other womens opinions so they don't even leave the house. Because all men are horrible right? Get over it- or you'll be miserable forever.

Good points and have a grayt time while visiting the beach! And we hope you decide to make it home.....we sowal wenches enjoy getting together and would love for you to join us...now the sowal menches will be chiming in that they aren't invited, but of course they are!!We also get together for sowal soiree's on the beach several times a year and have a blast!! Soooo

 

[BlueFox181]

Of course, I have to be (perhaps unrealistically) hopeful that prince charming is out there, I'm allergic to cats!

I'm allergic as well! Ha, I would love to join you ladies out anytime- just have a more upbeat attitude is all I am asking! You all live in one of the most gorgeous places to be all hasty regarding things like men.

BTW- one time while I was in town I met someone who I do think could be quite amazing... and I have kept in touch. So- I don't buy it ladies. They are there in the area. He also introduced me to a bunch of ladies that had SoWal thongs on their heads! That's how I found out about this forum in the first place.

 

[DD]

I'm allergic as well! Ha, I would love to join you ladies out anytime- just have a more upbeat attitude is all I am asking! You all live in one of the most gorgeous places to be all hasty regarding things like men.

BTW- last time I was in town I met someone who I do think could be quite amazing... and I have kept in touch. So- I don't buy it ladies. They are there in the area. He also introduced me to a bunch of ladies that had SoWal thongs on their heads! That's how I found out about this forum in the first place.

Uh oh...
Would that have been in April?

 

[BlueFox181]

Uh oh...
Would that have been in April?

YES! I met a bunch of ladies and some were leaving the same time as us! Bud and Ally's? I have been making an effort to visit every 2 months until I get to move... Ya'll were a riot!

 

[scooterbug44]

BTW- one time while I was in town I met someone who I do think could be quite amazing... and I have kept in touch. So- I don't buy it ladies. They are there in the area. He also introduced me to a bunch of ladies that had SoWal thongs on their heads! That's how I found out about this forum in the first place.

We're not saying they don't exist, just that the lack of eligible bachelors is one of the few drawbacks (along w/ hurricanes, housing/living costs, and yellow flies) to this area. This place needs some drawbacks to keep it from being too perfect ;-).

 

[DD]

YES! I met a bunch of ladies and some were leaving the same time as us! Bud and Ally's? I have been making an effort to visit every 2 months until I get to move... Ya'll were a riot!

Was one of them on the way to the tattoo parlor?